Everyone at Hey U.G.L.Y. – Unique Gifted Lovable You deeply understands how terrible a break-up can feel.
If you are the one breaking up, you might feel afraid that you are making a big mistake. You start worrying that if you leave this person you may never find another person who loves you. Plus, no one wants to consciously hurt another person, and that might weigh heavily on you too.
If you are the one being told the relationship is over, you too can feel so scared. All of the dreams you have made as to how your life was going to be are now shattered. All of your “I’m not good enough” buttons might get pushed, and you could think the reason he/she is breaking up with you is because of something you did or did not do. Remember what we discussed in the previous chapter — it could be that the person breaking up with you just doesn’t love him or herself enough!
Once you get past the initial shock and grief of the breakup, try to look at it like an educational process. During any relationship there are some things that you really like and some things that you wish would never have happened. You can’t change any of that, but you can make your next relationship much better by remembering those experiences. So, we say to the person who “broke our heart”, especially if they were a jerk, “THANK YOU for being my teacher, now I know what I do not want.”
I know so many people whose hearts were broken, but then found a much better partner. Eventually they could see how the break-up was important in helping them learn valuable lessons so they could live the life they really wanted to live.
We have all been through it, more times than we care to mention. But the key here is the words “through it.” You will get through it. I know, I didn’t think I would make it through either, but then I gained strength watching some of my favorite celebrities go through the pain and then end up with someone so much better for them.
Can you think of some celebrities who had a tough break-up but then ended up with someone better? Email PreventBullyingNow@heyugly.org and let us know who you suggest.
YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT!
It is a proven fact that no matter how much you feel you
loved someone, once the breakup happens you can heal and
often find an even better partner. But don’t deny the hurt
you are feeling. It’s like a death. It’s the death of the
relationship and the dreams you had for it. Grieve the
loss of those conversations, dates, texts, phone calls,
etc. Cry your eyes out, and then move on.