was created by Hey U.G.L.Y. as a new club that unites all of us who
have been the target of someone who thinks they are better than us.
Almost 50% of teens have been cyberbullied. So, instead of us hiding our heads in the sand, lets unite and stand up for
each other. And all of you bystanders who want to stand with us, we
welcome your support.
Click here to join the club
We have a facebook page set up for all of us to support each other. If you hear of a cyberbullying episode report it on our facebook page in a way that supports the person being bullied so they know that they are NOT ALONE. So, if you hear of anyone being cyberbullied email them, call them or put a note in their locker telling them that you don't believe any of the hate that is being spewed online.
We are not talking about attacking the attacker. Let them stew in their own jealousy and insecurity. We are about uniting and letting the repulsive hate not stick to our minds, souls or bodies. If we do not allow it to stick to US - guess where it ends up ... back on the cyberbully. AND that is exactly where the hate needs to stay. If the hate inside someone is not able to be passed on to someone else, sooner or later, the hater will have to deal with his/her own hate. And, as we all know - HATE IS REALLY JUST FEAR.
SO - TO ALL OF YOU CYBERBULLIES - WHAT
ARE YOU AFRAID OF?
YOURSELF THE GIFT OF BEING INFORMED!
WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE BEING CYBER BULLIED
an adult - a friend, a parent, school counselor, someone you trust. If
there is a threat of bodily harm contact the police. Only 11 percent of
teens talk to their parents about incidents of cyberbullying according
DO NOT HOLD IT IN
cyberbullies are probably bullying others and your reaching out to an
adult could actually be helping other classmates from being harassed.
FOURTH: UNDERSTAND THE BULLY. Realize that the bully, or bullies, are the ones suffering from low self-esteem. We know it's hard to do. We've all struggled with it, but the key is to try to understand your enemy. Understand the bully and have empathy for him or her because nine out of ten times the bully is being bullied by someone else. They don't know what to do with their pain so they INFLICT it on others. In fact, a good response to a bully is:
RESPONSE: "WHO'S TREATING YOU SO MEAN THAT YOU HAVE TO BE MEAN TO ME?"
If you know who is cyberbullying you, look them straight in the eye when you say that. If you can, say it with compassion in your heart. Okay, that may be asking too much of you but who knows, maybe the bully will realize you are seeing their inner pain and that could free them from having to be mean.
HOLD ON TO YOUR POWER AND
Remember to not let words hurt you. We know
it's not easy to do. We've allowed ourselves to be hurt by words
but guess what ... you can learn to not let words hurt you and to
understand that it's our programming that's making us feel hurt.
Internationally acclaimed author and therapist, Fr. Anthony De Mello
DON'T let your programming make you feel bad. Keep in mind most of these bullies are filled with fear and have low-self-esteem.
REMEMBER: If someone called
you an elephant, would you grow a trunk?
sure you don't strike back
by responding - that
behavior could lead to civil
IS CYBER BULLYING ILLEGAL?
CYBERBULLIES VICTIMIZE TEENS IN A VARIETY OF WAYS:
Nearly 20 percent of teens had a cyberbully pretend to be someone else in order to trick them online,
getting them to reveal personal information.
Seventeen percent of teens were victimized by someone lying about them online.
Thirteen percent of teens learned that a cyberbully was pretending to be them while communicating with someone else.
Ten percent of teens were victimized because someone posted unflattering pictures of them online, without permission. (NCPC)
Click on the picture to the left to watch
the ABC-TV movie CYBERBULLY.
It's FREE on YouTube
just type in Cyberbullying full movie Part 1/6
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