By Fr. Anthony DeMello S.J., in "The Way to Love"
You stupidly squander so much energy trying to
rearrange the world. If changing the world is your vocation in
life, go right ahead and change it, but do not harbor the illusion
that this is going to make you happy. What makes you happy or
unhappy is not the world and the people around you, but the
thinking in your head. As well as search for an eagle's nest on the
bed of an ocean, as search for happiness in the world outside of
So if it is happiness that you seek you can stop wasting your
energy trying to cure your baldness, or build up an attractive
body, or change your residence or job or community or lifestyle or
even your personality.Do you realize that you could change
every one of these things, you could have the finest looks and the
most charming personality and the most pleasant of surroundings and
still be unhappy?